In the first part of my post last week I briefly explained my spiritual journey and thus discovering the connection between spirituality and food. I do want to first off, make a disclaimer to anyone who may not practice/ believe what I do particularly about food. I'm only providing my story and encouraging others who are thinking what I was thinking regarding what we put in our bodies as "nourishment".
Being raised in the church there was no real discussion on taking care of your body on a physical level. Only in regards to premarital sex, and weed & alcohol consumption. Half of the time the majority of the congregation were either smokers, drinkers, and/or overweight. Of course, if we ran into a certain scripture pertaining to gluttony (for example) then there would be an elaboration....a brief one.
I did learn, however, learn about the story of Daniel. To summarize, Daniel was a man who refused to eat the food of the King (flesh foods & wine) and decided to partake in a (vegan) fast consisting of whole grains, fruits vegetables and strictly water. By the time it was all said and done as noted in Daniel 10:3 & Daniel 1:15 it states:
3" I ate no pleasant bread, neither came flesh nor wine in my mouth, neither did I anoint myself at all, till three whole weeks were fulfilled.....15 At the end of the ten days they looked healthier and better nourished than any of the young men who ate the royal food."
It intrigued me how Daniel strayed from flesh foods and did not consider it a key component in optimal health. Fast forward to now many faiths, condone not only eating flesh meat but in some cases even pork. The consumption of pork in particular goes against the Old Testament law.
Over the years. I would occasionally run into a vegan or vegetarian and hear horror stories about how the animals are treated before they are turned into food. But I didn't immerse myself in it until reading Queen Afua's book Sacred Woman. In the book she explained how flesh foods cause dis-ease and other behavioral issues, and that the ultimate goal of eliminating meat out of our diet (in addition to other processed/ refined foods) should be attained.
A little over a week ago, I decided to watch Vegucated on Netflix. In this documentary you had four people exploring the vegan diet and learning how meat is processed and fed to the masses. By the end of the movie, I was able to witness first hand how these animals were not only forced to live in an unnatural environment but were also abused and savagely murdered at these factory farms.
Chicks were ground alive. Chickens were de-beaked without sedation. Cows were castrated without sedation. Baby calves were ripped away from their mothers without being properly weaned. Pigs were electrocuted and shot in the head among each other. Chickens would be so pumped up in steroids to be larger they would collapse and no longer be able to walk These animals (cows, chickens and pigs) were fed corn, which goes against their natural environment entirely. In addition to that, all of these animals had to live in their own feces. This is in part why most antibiotics do not go to humans but in fact these animals. I even found out that even so called "organic:" meats can not necessarily be excluded from this kind of treatment. It only, in part, ensures that they are not fed any growth hormones.
I had to think about it. Animals have spirits. It implies that in not only in the Bible but other forms of spirituality as well. Just like our pets have emotions and personalities, so does every other animal. If I ingest the meat of an abused animal what kind of spirit(s) am I putting in my body? On a spiritual level, what does that really mean? After watching the movie it validated in my mind the importance of returning to the original way of eating as discussed in Genesis 1:29. More and more studies are proving that eating meat can be linked to may different illnesses that plague us all. Recalls on meat are a common part of our society now with issues of contamination. So what do you do? Do you continue to consume or do you pause in angst?
When you sit down to eat your next meal ask yourself this: are you eating for physical gratification only or are you also eating for the nourishment of your soul?
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Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Monday, June 23, 2014
Let's Talk Balance: Physical
Hey guys (including the queens too!)
I hope you noticed that I have another queen that has come to the table to spread the word on some things that are important to her. I feel it is important that we show each other love in our community and continue to build with one another. There can be no black unity and no black power, without understanding and support. So I would like to give a huge thank you to living_maat for joining me on the blog. I really look forward to working with her to spread love, healing, some consciousness and everything else we can think of to the community.
So onto the subject of today's blog. I think this may actually turn into a series, but we'll see how that goes as we move along this journey together.
Balance is important. Not just for physical things like walking, but on all 3 or 4 levels. The 3/4 levels I am referring to are mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. Now some people will lump mental and emotional or emotional and spiritual into one category which is fine. The point is we need to strive for balance in all of these areas.
So lets take a look at the physical aspect of the Big Four. Physical balance is more than just are you standing up straight today. Physical balance includes a wide array of things like, have you had enough to eat today, did you get enough sleep last night, etc. Your well being physically is the most visual of the Big Four but seems to be the most neglected. We tend to push ourselves physically, get less sleep than we should, eat more or less than we should, drink way less water than we should, drink more alcohol than we should, exercise less than we should and then wonder why we have aches and pains and our energy tanks seem to be on E.
So I want to encourage everyone to seek balance in the physical aspect of their lives (I find this the easiest one to start with).
Make sure you're getting enough sleep. I know you are out there hustling for your future (I am too), but sleep is important. How are you going to be able to enjoy the things you are working for now if you're too exhausted? I'm not saying give up your grind completely, however I am suggesting that you get the correct amount of sleep for your age so that you're able to function and do what you need to do.
Make sure you are eating enough and your body is getting the proper nutrition. Meat eaters eat differently than vegetarians who eat different from vegans. Wherever you fall, make sure you are getting what your body needs. I am not a doctor in any shape, form or fashion, so I'm not going to tell you exactly what you need to be ingesting and in what combination to get what you need. I'm just going to tell you do it.
Speaking of do it, make sure you are getting some form of physical fitness. Whether you enjoy yoga, going to the gym, boxing, getting sweaty with your significant others (you know what I'm talking about, don't get shy on me now), you need to be actively doing something. Even if its just walking, get out there and walk. There is seriously no excuse for not being able to be physically active for a minimum of 15 minutes a day (I do squats at work when my store is empty, so if I can still get a mini exercise in, you have no excuse).
And lastly, make sure you're drinking enough water. There is a formula to figure out how much water you are supposed to be drinking a day. Your weight divided in half, divided by 8 to find the number of cups of water you should drink per day. Water is so vital to our body that I shouldn't even have to add this part! Not juice, not soda, water. If you want to get on the aloe vera and coconut water thing be my guest (I think it's pretty tasty). If you want to drink infused water, do that. But drink water all day, every day.
I hope everyone strives to find a little more physical balance in their daily lives. If you can think of any other physical areas that I missed, add them in the comments section below.
Until next time,
Hotep King's and Queen's
I hope you noticed that I have another queen that has come to the table to spread the word on some things that are important to her. I feel it is important that we show each other love in our community and continue to build with one another. There can be no black unity and no black power, without understanding and support. So I would like to give a huge thank you to living_maat for joining me on the blog. I really look forward to working with her to spread love, healing, some consciousness and everything else we can think of to the community.
So onto the subject of today's blog. I think this may actually turn into a series, but we'll see how that goes as we move along this journey together.
Balance is important. Not just for physical things like walking, but on all 3 or 4 levels. The 3/4 levels I am referring to are mental, physical, emotional and spiritual. Now some people will lump mental and emotional or emotional and spiritual into one category which is fine. The point is we need to strive for balance in all of these areas.
So lets take a look at the physical aspect of the Big Four. Physical balance is more than just are you standing up straight today. Physical balance includes a wide array of things like, have you had enough to eat today, did you get enough sleep last night, etc. Your well being physically is the most visual of the Big Four but seems to be the most neglected. We tend to push ourselves physically, get less sleep than we should, eat more or less than we should, drink way less water than we should, drink more alcohol than we should, exercise less than we should and then wonder why we have aches and pains and our energy tanks seem to be on E.
So I want to encourage everyone to seek balance in the physical aspect of their lives (I find this the easiest one to start with).
Make sure you're getting enough sleep. I know you are out there hustling for your future (I am too), but sleep is important. How are you going to be able to enjoy the things you are working for now if you're too exhausted? I'm not saying give up your grind completely, however I am suggesting that you get the correct amount of sleep for your age so that you're able to function and do what you need to do.
Make sure you are eating enough and your body is getting the proper nutrition. Meat eaters eat differently than vegetarians who eat different from vegans. Wherever you fall, make sure you are getting what your body needs. I am not a doctor in any shape, form or fashion, so I'm not going to tell you exactly what you need to be ingesting and in what combination to get what you need. I'm just going to tell you do it.
Speaking of do it, make sure you are getting some form of physical fitness. Whether you enjoy yoga, going to the gym, boxing, getting sweaty with your significant others (you know what I'm talking about, don't get shy on me now), you need to be actively doing something. Even if its just walking, get out there and walk. There is seriously no excuse for not being able to be physically active for a minimum of 15 minutes a day (I do squats at work when my store is empty, so if I can still get a mini exercise in, you have no excuse).
And lastly, make sure you're drinking enough water. There is a formula to figure out how much water you are supposed to be drinking a day. Your weight divided in half, divided by 8 to find the number of cups of water you should drink per day. Water is so vital to our body that I shouldn't even have to add this part! Not juice, not soda, water. If you want to get on the aloe vera and coconut water thing be my guest (I think it's pretty tasty). If you want to drink infused water, do that. But drink water all day, every day.
I hope everyone strives to find a little more physical balance in their daily lives. If you can think of any other physical areas that I missed, add them in the comments section below.
Until next time,
Hotep King's and Queen's
Saturday, June 21, 2014
Diet IS Spirituality (Part 1)
For the past several months I have been making an attempt to transform my life from the inside out. Over the years I had tried many approaches that were unsuccessful. I would end up defaulting to "healing" myself from the outside in, and not seem to be making any significant changes no matter what I tried.
I was going off of the typical feedback of the 1992 Food Pyramid in which lean (meat) proteins, fruits, veggies, whole grains, working out regularly, etc were vital keys to attaining a healthy lifestyle.

(80's babies...remember this???...)
So for years I hopped on and off that horse, not being able to lose more than 25 pounds at a time (in which it took forever to get that far) and of course, when I finally put back on the weight I ended up heavier than I was before. Eventually I stopped going to the gym and sunk back in to a very unhealthy/ fast food/ eat whatever I want eating lifestyle.
But my spiritual reawakening happened. I started exploring my ancestral roots as well as different forms of African spirituality. It threw me on a path that revolutionized my whole way of viewing myself as a woman and spiritual being, while educating me extensively on my spiritual/ancestral roots.
While I was still "on the horse" (as mentioned above) I had came across an Instagram post praising the work of Queen Afua.
With my interest peaked, I looked her up on YouTube. I was hooked. This woman's testimony was so inspiring. Here you had, at that time, a little girl who was plagued by numerous allergies/health issues that are so common in today's society. After attending a spiritual retreat she learned the importance of healing through plant-based foods. Today, she is healed of all of her ailments while maintaining a Vegan lifestyle. She is a notable figure in today's spiritual/ holistic health movement, particularly in the black community.
I went on to buy her Two books: Sacred Woman & Heal Thyself
These books helped to reaffirm not only how you have to heal from the inside out through spiritual assistance, but the importance of returning to the original ways of a plant-based/ meatless diet that OUR ancestors once practiced.
At the time I was still eating meat and was still a bit skeptical as to the importance of pursuing a meat-less/ plant-based diet. Since Queen Afua practices the Kemetic faith (and me still being in the church at that time) I was looking for a spiritual link to make a more comfortable/familiar connection.
In a peculiar turn of events while I was searching through The Bible for certain scriptures I had came across Genesis 1:29 and it reads:
29 And God said, Behold, I have given you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.
THE ALL truly does work in mysterious ways....
That became my confirmation. While struggling to kick the meat habit for a couple of months, I have successfully been off meat for the past two weeks. I have lost so far a total of 15 pounds; over HALF of what I had previously lost that had taken me much longer to achieve. I'm more refreshed. I have more energy to tackle my days AND I no longer get the itis after eating a full meal
"The Itis" The Boondocks season 1 Episode 10/ Adult Swim
....but just when I thought I didn't need any more convincing about maintaining a meatless diet....I came across this:
Part Two coming soon...
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
Brick One
Is success a destination or is it a journey? What even is "success"? For years I thought It was a destination. One that stated It's a career. It's a husband. It's children. It's a certain size. It's a certain look. But fast forward to now I find myself asking that question again. NOW... after turning twenty-eight....being a college graduate for four years with NO career.... a ten year part-time job with no promotion in sight (with four or five second jobs scattered in between)..... a spiritual life that I couldn't truly call my own....and a reflection in the mirror that has yet to show who is really hiding behind all of this physical & emotional weight. I finally asked myself that question:
"Where the %$#@! was I all this time???"
And then immediately following that I sensed THE ALL ask me:
"Do you even know who you REALLY are???"
My Answer: "%#@$&%...."
...I didn't even have a clue. I had realized that my answers never had anything to do with me, but had everything to do with things outside of myself.
That realization proved to be the catalyst. That moment sparked the change.
I feel like THE ALL has put me in a peculiar space to both reflect on my life and move forward into my optimal Destiny. That "destiny" that The Bible speaks of in Jeremiah 29: 11:
11 "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end."
Twenty-eight years has brought so many different life experiences involving people, places, triumphs, and setbacks. But rather than choosing to live in a dream world; in which I somehow have ALL the right answers, I'm choosing to pick up my brick and actually start BUILDING in reality. It wasn't until recently that I realized I was only grabbing for handfuls of sand, wondering why I couldn't lay a solid foundation. Upset that my "foundation" kept crumbling. You see, my head wasn't in the right place. I wasn't even asking all the right questions when I called myself praying for an answer. At times I wasn't even asking. I was just doing; acting in my own ignorance, bias, and impatience.
Now I'm evolving. Reading....Healing....Listening....Losing....Gaining....Praying....Affirming...((Shutting UP))...Letting go....and holding on in this process called Self-evolution. I always knew that my story would end up being one person's inspiration. And prayerfully that person would be the next person's inspiration...and the ball would keep rolling....and rolling....and rolling...That's the ultimate goal.
My purpose here is to first & foremost:
ENLIGHTEN:
"Temet Nosce" Latin for "Know Thyself". Once you KNOW who you are and who THE ALL has called you to be, you become an unstoppable force that is able to successfully lay the foundation of the empire that is your LIFE and build accordingly!!! THE ALL has already given us all of the tools necessary. All we have to do is use them.
ENCOURAGE
Being a part of the cure and not the disease. Helping you to not only pick up the first brick but to help you keep building.
THINK
This segment will expand on such topics as spirituality, sexuality. race, gender, social standards, beauty, self-care, prejudices, relationships, etc....Whats a good way to stimulate the mind like a thought-provoking topic???
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I said I was evolving and this will allow me to be open and honest about my own struggles and what steps I'm taking to conquer them. I may want to cringe inside with what all I may disclose but then again, I'm here to be someone's inspiration.
Were all on a journey in this life....lets strive to always move in the highest vibration possible
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
What Do You Want to See and My Spritual Journey
First off, thank you to everyone that takes their time to read my blog. I'm very happy you take the time to read what I'm thinking. I want to bring you more of what you want to see, learn about etc. So I'm all ears for suggestion. I wouldn't be writing this if it wasn't for you, so I want your input. Leave me comments letting me know what you want me to try to blog about. If there's a business I should be looking at, tell me. If there's art I should be buying, tell me. If there are books I should be reading (my ultimate weakness and guilty pleasure), send me the name, author and the best place to buy it from. I'm going to try to post on Mondays and Fridays with a video on YouTube on Wednesdays. And the videos and a quick description will be in an additional post here. So again, this blog is for you. Let me know what you want to see.
I'm constantly curious about the spiritual journeys other people go through. I find it very rare to meet someone that has always been in tune with their ancestral spiritual roots. I know I wasn't always. So I thought it would be a good chance to explain how I went from where I was, to where I am now.
So I was raised as a Baptist Christian. Just regular Baptist (I learned when I lived in South Carolina that there is a difference between a regular Baptist and a Southern Baptist (absolutely no idea what that difference is though)). I remember going to church every Sunday with my mom. I remember the dresses and putting money into the offering plate ($1). I remember the story of Jonah and the whale, and David and Goliath. However when my family moved to Holland, I remember seeing things a little differently. We went to church still but it was with other American families, but the Children's church didn't have the structure I remembered from my old church. After a while, we stopped going,
When we moved to California, I don't think we went at all. I remember going once and it was so cold inside the church. I spent the time huddled with my mom and sister trying to keep warm. Eventually after my brother was born my family moved to South Carolina, and again we didn't really find a church. We attended a few services to find a church but with moving from on base to our own home we never really found a place we enjoyed. It was around this time I started getting back into my rock collecting. I had been a part of one of those little monthly rock collecting groups you get from the scholastic book orders. I would get the cards explaining some of the properties of the rocks and crystals I would get in the mail. Now that I was in my own home with my own room, I started collecting them again. My parents didn't think anything of it. I also asked for my own set of tarot cards so I could read peoples futures for extra cash, like one of my heroines in my favorite book series did (The Daughters of the Moon series). This was met by a firm no and that it was the devils work. Only God knew our futures.
Once I became a freshman in high school things changed for me. I joined a martial arts club because of my love for anime (I was also taking a kenpo class before moving). I met another student in the class and we hit it off pretty quickly We adopted each other as brother and sister at school and quickly learned about each others interests. I brought up my love for writing and that I was into crystals. At the mention of this he asked me to bring my crystals to him in the gym the next morning. I thought he might want to see them and agreed. This would be the beginning of my pagan/wiccan journey. This would also be the time in my life where I experienced my worst depression.
This person became my teacher, my best friend, my eventual boyfriend and my first heartbreak. Around the end of our relationship I had turned myself into someone I was no longer proud to be. I had picked up a small habit of petty theft because my parents refused to allow me to buy the books myself. I had begun cutting myself to deal with the pain our relationship was causing me mentally and emotionally. I let my grades slip to the point to where getting a D (which is passing by South Carolina standards) became acceptable in both my eyes and the eyes of my parents. I graduated college and three weeks later I began attending college for the first time.
At this time I wasn't sure in what I believed in. Eventually towards my last semester of school before I graduated, I went back to exploring Wicca. This time I was on my own and I felt more secure. However I was praying to Greek and Norse deities and something didn't click with me internally. My soul felt like I was outside the door to my own home but could not get in. And then I discover Egyptian deities and Tameran Wicca (Wicca based off the ancient Egyptian practices and deities). And for a while I felt great. I felt like I was home. Even when things weren't going my way in life I still felt like my spirit and my mind were in a safe place. The pain that lingered from my past seemed to be gone.
Then one day my ex began to email me. And within about two weeks, my mental state seemed out of whack again.. It was something with how our energy reacted to one another that drove me to the darkest place within myself. But this time I made it out okay. Even though I was sinking mentally and emotionally, spiritually I felt okay. I knew nothing bad would happen to me this time. I was able to walk away and end this tumultuous chapter of my life. Now about this same time I was making my transition to embracing my natural hair. This is also the time when I began expanding my Instagram and meeting new people. I was also in a relationship with someone that was doing his best to understand my "religion". I was starting to become dissatisfied with the amount of books I could find on Egyptian Wicca because all of them were written by Caucasians. Then one day I was recommended a book online. It was the first volume of Metu Neter by Ra Un Nefer Amen. This book opened my eyes to what my spirituality could actually become. For a while I still considered myself wiccan but then slowly I got away from it.
Even though I know I had found my spiritual home emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually, I still had a tough time understanding some of the things I was trying to absorb. It was at this time I met Clecquot online and began reading Muata Ashby books. Muata Ashby books helped my mind to better grasp and absorb what I was reading in the Metu Neter. Now some of his books were still difficult for my mind to absorb at the time I noticed that all of his books built off of his other books. So I started with African Religion Volume One and then bought a few others. But I was unable to understand the other until I pushed myself to comprehend what was before my eyes. So now I'm seeing the similarities between kemeticism and Christianity and I think its amazing. Its given me a whole new outlook to the way some of my friends and family express their faith. I don't think I will ever consider myself a Christian, I consider myself close enough to be able to sit with Christians and feel comfortable in expressing my views and beliefs.
So this is my journey up to this point. And I'm looking forward to reading about yours.
Hotel King's and Queen's
I'm constantly curious about the spiritual journeys other people go through. I find it very rare to meet someone that has always been in tune with their ancestral spiritual roots. I know I wasn't always. So I thought it would be a good chance to explain how I went from where I was, to where I am now.
So I was raised as a Baptist Christian. Just regular Baptist (I learned when I lived in South Carolina that there is a difference between a regular Baptist and a Southern Baptist (absolutely no idea what that difference is though)). I remember going to church every Sunday with my mom. I remember the dresses and putting money into the offering plate ($1). I remember the story of Jonah and the whale, and David and Goliath. However when my family moved to Holland, I remember seeing things a little differently. We went to church still but it was with other American families, but the Children's church didn't have the structure I remembered from my old church. After a while, we stopped going,
When we moved to California, I don't think we went at all. I remember going once and it was so cold inside the church. I spent the time huddled with my mom and sister trying to keep warm. Eventually after my brother was born my family moved to South Carolina, and again we didn't really find a church. We attended a few services to find a church but with moving from on base to our own home we never really found a place we enjoyed. It was around this time I started getting back into my rock collecting. I had been a part of one of those little monthly rock collecting groups you get from the scholastic book orders. I would get the cards explaining some of the properties of the rocks and crystals I would get in the mail. Now that I was in my own home with my own room, I started collecting them again. My parents didn't think anything of it. I also asked for my own set of tarot cards so I could read peoples futures for extra cash, like one of my heroines in my favorite book series did (The Daughters of the Moon series). This was met by a firm no and that it was the devils work. Only God knew our futures.
Once I became a freshman in high school things changed for me. I joined a martial arts club because of my love for anime (I was also taking a kenpo class before moving). I met another student in the class and we hit it off pretty quickly We adopted each other as brother and sister at school and quickly learned about each others interests. I brought up my love for writing and that I was into crystals. At the mention of this he asked me to bring my crystals to him in the gym the next morning. I thought he might want to see them and agreed. This would be the beginning of my pagan/wiccan journey. This would also be the time in my life where I experienced my worst depression.
This person became my teacher, my best friend, my eventual boyfriend and my first heartbreak. Around the end of our relationship I had turned myself into someone I was no longer proud to be. I had picked up a small habit of petty theft because my parents refused to allow me to buy the books myself. I had begun cutting myself to deal with the pain our relationship was causing me mentally and emotionally. I let my grades slip to the point to where getting a D (which is passing by South Carolina standards) became acceptable in both my eyes and the eyes of my parents. I graduated college and three weeks later I began attending college for the first time.
At this time I wasn't sure in what I believed in. Eventually towards my last semester of school before I graduated, I went back to exploring Wicca. This time I was on my own and I felt more secure. However I was praying to Greek and Norse deities and something didn't click with me internally. My soul felt like I was outside the door to my own home but could not get in. And then I discover Egyptian deities and Tameran Wicca (Wicca based off the ancient Egyptian practices and deities). And for a while I felt great. I felt like I was home. Even when things weren't going my way in life I still felt like my spirit and my mind were in a safe place. The pain that lingered from my past seemed to be gone.
Then one day my ex began to email me. And within about two weeks, my mental state seemed out of whack again.. It was something with how our energy reacted to one another that drove me to the darkest place within myself. But this time I made it out okay. Even though I was sinking mentally and emotionally, spiritually I felt okay. I knew nothing bad would happen to me this time. I was able to walk away and end this tumultuous chapter of my life. Now about this same time I was making my transition to embracing my natural hair. This is also the time when I began expanding my Instagram and meeting new people. I was also in a relationship with someone that was doing his best to understand my "religion". I was starting to become dissatisfied with the amount of books I could find on Egyptian Wicca because all of them were written by Caucasians. Then one day I was recommended a book online. It was the first volume of Metu Neter by Ra Un Nefer Amen. This book opened my eyes to what my spirituality could actually become. For a while I still considered myself wiccan but then slowly I got away from it.
Even though I know I had found my spiritual home emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually, I still had a tough time understanding some of the things I was trying to absorb. It was at this time I met Clecquot online and began reading Muata Ashby books. Muata Ashby books helped my mind to better grasp and absorb what I was reading in the Metu Neter. Now some of his books were still difficult for my mind to absorb at the time I noticed that all of his books built off of his other books. So I started with African Religion Volume One and then bought a few others. But I was unable to understand the other until I pushed myself to comprehend what was before my eyes. So now I'm seeing the similarities between kemeticism and Christianity and I think its amazing. Its given me a whole new outlook to the way some of my friends and family express their faith. I don't think I will ever consider myself a Christian, I consider myself close enough to be able to sit with Christians and feel comfortable in expressing my views and beliefs.
So this is my journey up to this point. And I'm looking forward to reading about yours.
Hotel King's and Queen's
Wednesday, June 4, 2014
Drop the Mask and Be You
This is a post that I feel a lot of people need. And I'm only saying this because I went through the same thing and occasionally slip back into this old habit. So I just want to take the time to say this to each and every person that I can touch with this blog.
I had a bad habit of dumbing myself down and changing who I was to fit in during high school to make friends with people. I wouldn't read the things I liked, watch the things I like, talk about the things I like all to please some people that weren't there for me a few weeks after graduation. And this lead me down a very difficult road. And I am just now correcting myself when it comes to my mindset and just letting the people in my life see me for me. I'm old enough now to understand that I shouldn't have to change myself for someone else to like me or to love me. They should like me for who I am and fall in love with my very essence, not a dimmed version of it. It took my current relationship for me to see that I can just be me and the right person will like... well... me.
I'm smarter than I allow myself to be, and more outgoing than I allow myself to be because I put myself into the box of what people expect from me.
So I'm here to tell each and every person I can, just drop the mask and be yourself. Each and every of us was put here to change the world in some shape, form or fashion. But you can't change the world if you're too busy changing yourself to be someone you're not for other people. Just take the time to find out who you really are and let other people see that too. You never know who you may meet, and who is really meant to be in your life if you're hiding. You don't need to hide anymore.
Hotel King's and Queen's
I had a bad habit of dumbing myself down and changing who I was to fit in during high school to make friends with people. I wouldn't read the things I liked, watch the things I like, talk about the things I like all to please some people that weren't there for me a few weeks after graduation. And this lead me down a very difficult road. And I am just now correcting myself when it comes to my mindset and just letting the people in my life see me for me. I'm old enough now to understand that I shouldn't have to change myself for someone else to like me or to love me. They should like me for who I am and fall in love with my very essence, not a dimmed version of it. It took my current relationship for me to see that I can just be me and the right person will like... well... me.
I'm smarter than I allow myself to be, and more outgoing than I allow myself to be because I put myself into the box of what people expect from me.
So I'm here to tell each and every person I can, just drop the mask and be yourself. Each and every of us was put here to change the world in some shape, form or fashion. But you can't change the world if you're too busy changing yourself to be someone you're not for other people. Just take the time to find out who you really are and let other people see that too. You never know who you may meet, and who is really meant to be in your life if you're hiding. You don't need to hide anymore.
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